Proverbs 19:11 NIV “A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s GLORY to overlook an offense.”
How often do we hear or think of overlooking offenses as GLORIOUS? I can’t remember the last time I heard that. Yet God says it is.😊 You don’t have to insult folks these days to get a negative reaction. Just say something they don’t agree with. Have you ever been in a relationship (any relationship) where you were often accused of doing or saying things you didn’t do or say? This can be oppressive.😓 Good communication is the lifeblood of any friendship, marriage, partnership, etcetera. Sadly, accusers are filled with so much animosity that’s all they can give. You can only give what you have.🤔
THE POWER OF PATIENT FORGIVENESS
There is great power in overlooking offenses? Listen to some of what God says about it:
Proverbs 14:29 NIV “Whoever is patient has GREAT UNDERSTANDING, but one who is quick-tempered displays folly.”
Proverbs 15:18 NIV “A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel.”
Proverbs 16:32 KJV “He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.”
Colossians 3:13 KJV “Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.”
Matthew 6:14-15 NIV “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.  But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
LIGHTEN YOUR LOAD
Carrying around pains from the past and present can make us sick, mentally, spiritually, and physically.🤕 The person who will not forgive and let go of their burdens will have a very hard go of it. Burdens weigh us down. Carrying them make it impossible to have happy, normal relationships with others. We can unload ALL of our burdens on the shoulders of someone who truly cares. Jesus invites us to cast ALL of our burdens on him:😊
Matthew 11:28-30 NLT ‘ “Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.  Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls.  For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.” ‘
There’s a saying, “Let go and let God.” (Matthew 6:33-34 Philippians 4:6-7 Romans 12:17-21) Letting go ain’t always easy. Neither is letting God. But I ask you, has anything else worked? Isn’t learning how to let go and cast ALL of our burdens on God worth investigating? Isn’t it better to live a glorious life than to die in defeat?🤔
Please share tis with a friend
Luke 10:19 HCSB “Look, I have given you the authority to trample on snakes and SCORPIONS and over all the power of the enemy; nothing will ever harm you.”
A scorpion approached a very nice frog one day and asked him, “Can you give me a ride on your back across the pond? I don’t have the awesome ability to leap on lily pads like you do.” The frog said, “You’re a scorpion, you might sting me.” The scorpion said, “I won’t sting you. I only want to go to such and such a place. I could surely use your help.” The frog said, “Are you sure you won’t sting me?” The scorpion said, “I’m sure. I promise I won’t sting you.” So the frog gave the scorpion a ride on his back. As he was jumping to a lily pad the scorpion stung him! They both fell into the pond and drowned. But before they drowned the frog said to the scorpion, “Hey, I thought you said you weren’t gonna sting me? The scorpion replied, “I’m a scorpion, that’s what I do.”
Have you ever felt like the frog? You went above and beyond and against your better judgment to help someone only to have them bite you? If you’re reading this article you haven’t drowned or died like the frog. You may feel like you have at times but you haven’t. Our world is filled with scorpions. Those who earnestly seek God are like sheep. But sadly, sheep are considered as weak and to be slaughtered:
Romans 8:36 NIV ‘“As it is written: “For your sake we face death all day long; we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.”’
Scorpions and snakes gravitate to sheeplike folks. These hunters want easy prey (or prey they think is easy). Genuinely kind people will always attract scorpions. It’s not that you are necessarily doing anything wrong that attracts them, it’s often because you are doing something right, you have compassion. Evil people prey upon those with compassion. They feel they can easily be used. These wolves comen in sheep’s clothing stalking you. How we respond to them is all that matters. I know sometimes you wish it would just stop. David did too:
Psalms 6:7-8 HCSB “My eyes are swollen from grief; they grow old because of all my enemies. DEPART FROM ME, ALL EVILDOERS, for the Lord has heard the sound of my weeping.”
Psalms 139:19-20 HCSB “God, if only You would kill the wicked — you bloodthirsty men, STAY AWAY FROM ME — who invoke You deceitfully. Your enemies swear by You falsely.”
As you just read read David too strongly hated having to deal with these kinds of people, especially those who invoked the name of God falsely. Yes, people even pretend to be God fearing to get what they want. David cried out to God often because of his encounters with such people. But David knew who to cry to: GOD!😊 Prayer really works and is so powerful. (James 5:16) If you are a person who truly seeks God, and seeks goodwill towards others, it is inevitable, you will attract parasites. These moochers will always spot you. The Devil wants you and I to become so bothered by their attacks that we become just as mean and hateful as them in the hopes that this will make them stop. But becoming stone-hearted only opens the door to more problems, worse ones.
Hurt after hurt, disappointment after disappointment, failed relationship after failed relationship, and you still wonna be nice to people? That takes real strength which is divine. It comes from God. Those whose love has grown cold are the ones who are weak.
NOT ALL NICE FOLKS ARE LIKE THE FROG
Some of us are learning to love others as we love ourselves. (Mark 12:30-31) And because we love ourselves we avoid dangerous scorpions, let alone give them a ride on our backs. Jesus gives true believers authority to TRAMPLE on scorpions and snakes physical and spiritual. (Luke 10:19) That means they are under our feet, not enjoying a comfortable ride on our backs. Sometimes the believer must say, “Enough is enough!” and exercise his/her authority in Jesus Christ. Our job is not to carry people in an attempt to save them. We can carry or bear one another’s burdens as scripture says (Galatians 6:1-2), but carrying scorpions is a totally different matter. Only God can change and save someone.
I must admit I’ve been that frog at certain points in my life. I’ve unwisely went above and beyond to carry others to my own demise. And yes I got bit, hard! There’s nothing that hurts quite like a scorpion’s bite. Thank God my bites were not fatal. But it felt like it at times. Solomon describes a certain scorpion’s bite this way:
Proverbs 7:21-27 NLT “So she seduced him with her pretty speech and enticed him with her flattery.  He followed her at once, like an ox going to the slaughter. He was like a stag caught in a trap,  awaiting the arrow that would pierce its heart. He was like a bird flying into a snare, little knowing it would cost him his life.  So listen to me, my sons, and pay attention to my words.  Don’t let your hearts stray away toward her. Don’t wander down her wayward path.  For she has been the ruin of many; many men have been her victims.  Her house is the road to the grave. Her bedroom is the den of death.”
Ecclesiastes 7:26 NLT “I discovered that a seductive woman is a trap more bitter than death. Her passion is a snare, and her soft hands are chains. Those who are pleasing to God will escape her, but sinners will be caught in her snare.”
How many men and women have been bitten by this scorpion?🤔
Genuinely nice people are so cool. They are not weak. They’re strong. Hurt after hurt, disappointment after disappointment, failed relationship after failed relationship, and you still wonna be nice to people? That takes real strength which is divine. It comes from God. Those whose love has grown cold are the ones who are weak. Jesus said:
Matthew 24:10-13 GNT “Many will give up their faith at that time; they will betray one another and hate one another. Then many false prophets will appear and fool many people. Such will be the spread of evil that many people’s love will grow cold. But whoever holds out to the end will be saved.”
Jesus said in the last days the love of most people would grow cold because of widespread evil. Those days are here. He also said many would give up their faith, betray and hate each other. Those days are here. He also said MANY FALSE PROPHETS would appear and fool so many. Again, those days are here. Widespread evil, people giving up their faith, betraying, hating one another, and false prophets, are all contributing factors as to why people’s love has grown cold. Ask yourself honestly, “Have I been affected by any of these?”
I meet people regularly who have had bad experiences with false religion or false prophets. Some of them are healing from their wounds but many are not. Many don’t seek God anymore like they once did. (Revelation 2:4) The encounter damaged them and understandably so. The scorpions did their job on these souls. I was one of them. I hated life, God, and everyone else because of what I experienced in false religion. It wasn’t until I cried out to God one day and asked Him questions regarding my bad experience that He answered me, and my healing process began. I greatly encourage you dear friend to do the same if you haven’t already. I’ve never been freer since.😊
In conclusion, none of us have to end up like the frog. If you’re reading this article you’re not dead. God is a specialist at healing broken hearts. I know this from experience. As we truly seek Him and grow we learn better how to identify scorpions, and sheep from goats. We learn how to tell them, “No! You can’t have a ride on my back,” without feeling any remorse for it. Why should we feel bad about not giving someone a ride on our backs who only wants to sting us? Saying, “No,” when appropriate is powerful. This becomes part of our repertoire. It’s not a sin to say, “No!” to scorpions.😊
Please share this with a friend
Proverbs 2:3-6 NIV “Indeed, if you call out for insight and CRY ALOUD for understanding,  and if you look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden treasure,  then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God.  For the Lord gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.”
We don’t like peeling the onion. Is it because we know the more we peel the more we will cry? Is it really a bad idea to have a good cry? God invites us to, “CRY ALOUD,” to Him. It’s part of the process of obtaining true knowledge of Him. When we peel the onion and go beyond the surface that’s where the truth lies. The truth hurts. It can make us cry. But these are well-spent tears. Often there are years of tears held prisoner waiting to escape. Free them and you’ll free yourself.
Psalm 51:6 NLT “But you desire honesty from the womb, teaching me wisdom even there.”
Honesty is something God requires if we are to be in a relationship with HIm. As we grow we even require it of ourselves. There’s nothing like being honest with yourself. Let’s look at 2 benefits for doing so:
1 John 1:7-10 KJV “But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin.  If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.  If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.  If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us.”
Notice the first benefit in the passage above for walking in the light, or truth: we have fellowship with one another. Have you ever met someone for the first time and knew you both honestly clicked, and it turned out to be really true over time? Not only did you see things you have in common your beliefs were the same. It was very easy to talk to one another, in fact, you enjoyed each other’s company so much it felt as if you were benefiting just because you were in one another’s presence. There were no ulterior motives, only love. For those who believe in God, this is how it is. We walk in the light; in truth, in honesty, therefore we have sweet fellowship, true friendship, with one another.
The next and most important super benefit I noticed in the passage above for being honest is having ALL of our misdeeds forgiven. When we peel the onion we see wrongs we’ve committed. It’s not always everyone else’s fault. Recognizing our faults is not pretty, and it doesn’t feel good. But it’s not until we deal with them we can ever have peace. So many folks are suffering greatly mentally, physically, and spiritually because they either don’t know this truth or are unwilling to face it. They’ve been programmed to think confessing their missteps and having a good cry to God makes them weak. But on the contrary, it is the strongest thing a person can do. When done with a penitent heart a miracle happens: we experience the refreshing joy of total forgiveness for our many sins. Healing in all areas takes place.
All of us have missed the mark. There’s not a person alive who can honestly say, “I’m perfect!” or, “I’ve never done anything wrong.” Those who are truly in tune with themselves know this. But fools think there’s no need to make amends:
Proverbs 14:9 NLT “Fools make fun of guilt, but the godly acknowledge it and seek reconciliation.”
Proverbs 12:15 NLT “Fools think their own way is right, but the wise listen to others.”
Want to experience ultimate peace? Ultimate joy? Peel the onion: acknowledge the truth about yourself, and seek reconciliation with God and others you may have harmed. Have a good ole cry to God. Peel away the past hurts and years of pain. He will heal you. God will make you whole.😊
Please share this with a friend